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Rector’s Letter – December 2017

Another year draws to a close

With December, the year draws to a close; and another year goes by. A year with, I trust, many happy things to look back on; things that bring a smile to your face as they come to mind. Mixed, I have no doubt, with some hard things that you’ve had to deal with this year, and perhaps some events that are painful to think back on. I hope that the balance has been towards the happier things of life for you this year.

On this yearly cycle of life, the Church now moves into Advent and then on to Christmas. Advent is a time of preparation for us; preparing ourselves for the celebrations of Christmas, hopefully as we remember – amongst all the wrapping paper, presents, food, drink, and family time – the reason that many are having time off work … we are celebrating the birth of an incredibly special baby about 2,000 years ago; a baby who Christians believe, as a man (and as God) came to help us and save us. Advent is also, for the Church, a time of preparing ourselves, more deeply, for the return of Jesus again – whenever that may be. Perhaps it will be in thousands of years, or maybe hundreds of years; or perhaps it will be in your lifetime; or tomorrow. None of us know; but we should be prepared – that is what Advent is about.

The years also move on; this year we are celebrating five Christmases together. I cannot believe where that time has gone. There are plenty of things to share together in the run up to Christmas and over Christmas; I hope we’ll meet up at some of them. It all begins with our candle-lit Advent Carol service on Sunday 3 December; then an Advent evening together with Revd Rosemary at the Mission Church in Sandhurst on Monday 4 December. The Primary School Nativity on Wednesday 13 December; the Parish Carol Service, with the church illuminated by the candelabras, on the evening of Tuesday 19 December. We’ve then got a choice of four services on offer on Christmas Eve: 8am Communion, 10am Morning Worship, 3pm The Crib Service (come dressed as a nativity character – whatever your age!) and 11.30pm for the first Communion of Christmas. On Christmas Day you can then join us for Communion at 8am, or 10am for Family Worship – which then runs into another Communion if you’d like to stay. However, it doesn’t end there! If you’d prefer not to be on your own for the rest of Christmas Day, you’re welcome to come and have Christmas lunch at the Memorial Hall (but please sign up for this – for further details see page 9); or drop into the Hall for a drink when you’re out for a walk. Alternatively, you can catch me in The Bull, of course! We have a great community spirit in Benenden; come and join in with it. I wish you a blessed Christmas.

Revd David Commander, Rector

Rector’s Letter – November

Our rural churchyard

In August, I put out a plea for people to help those who have maintained our churchyard for many, many years. I am delighted to say that the response was very positive, and for that I thank those who have come forward and have helped on several of the working parties.

Some may recall a comment in the October 2016 magazine about the introduction of plants and shrubs, personal mementos and other artificial items on some graves, and these being against the Diocesan Churchyard Regulations 2014. (These are set nationally, but with slight variations across different Diocese. A copy is available in church.) The problem, over the years, with the Regulations not being implemented, is that their boundaries become blurred, and you get into a situation where someone says, “Why can’t I have … whatever the wish is … on my loved one’s grave, like they have?” – pointing to an example of something similar, somewhere else in the churchyard. Before we know it, there’s a proliferation of items that not only do not comply with the Churchyard Regulations, but which to other people look completely out of place in a rural churchyard.

Here, of course, lies a pastoral minefield that I am about to tiptoe through: how to stop the increase of such personal mementoes that do not comply?

Concern has been expressed about items in the churchyard, especially in the context of what is required under the Regulations – these are effectively nationally applicable bylaws framed in such a way as to provide a balance between the sometimes conflicting needs of: (i) ensuring an acceptable appearance of a churchyard – as opposed to a cemetery; (ii) maintenance; and (iii) the wishes of relatives of the deceased.

Among items not permitted under the Regulations are artificial flowers, miniature fences and chippings, the latter two, particularly, causing hazards and considerable difficulties for the maintenance of the churchyard. The Regulations also say that rose bushes, shrubs and trees must not be planted on individual graves, because they have a habit of growing. (For example, in St Nicholas Sandhurst a conifer has been planted in a grave, while 25ft above the grave is an overhead power-line; something will have to be done about this, for obvious reasons!)

To bring our churchyard within the Regulations, all non-permitted items will be removed after a period of three months from their first being observed. They will be recorded and kept for 12 months, and if they are not claimed within this period, they will be suitably disposed of. (Notices will be posted in the churchyard to coincide with this article.) Existing small plants will not be disturbed.

If you can help by removing anything on your family grave that does not comply, we would be grateful, and it may reduce the upset some may feel. I trust that we can maintain the beauty of our rural churchyard for years to come for the benefit of everyone who visits.

Revd David Commander, Rector

St George’s Church, Music Director

We are delighted to welcome Charlotte O’Neill as our Director of Music. Charlotte lives with her husband Richard and their family at our edge of Hawkhurst; she is a Durham University graduate and has led choirs in her college there and at churches in Houston Texas, Frittenden and Maidstone.

Charlotte has settled into leading choir practice, which is now on a Friday evening. Please do come along and meet her.

Church Fete thanks

A BIG thank you to everyone who worked so hard making the 2017 Church Fete such a huge success. To those who worked hard pulling it all together; those who helped set up and clear away; those who worked on stalls and sorted everything that was donated; those who provided us all with refreshments; those who worked behind the scenes; and those who came to the fete and enjoyed themselves. A great village event and a really enjoyable church event. Thank you all for your hard work.

Revd David.

New Director of Music

We are delighted to welcome Charlotte O’Neill as our Director of Music and also all her family to St. George’s. Charlotte lives with her husband Richard and their family in Hawkhurst; she is a Durham University graduate and has led choirs in her college there and at churches in Houston Texas, Frittenden and Maidstone. Charlotte led St. George’s Church choir for the first time at the July Choral Evensong service. We look forward to many happy and productive years with Charlotte and our choir.

Revd David.